Snippets - The Lovers Podcast

S5E8 - Inner communication

Sometimes we are our own worst enemies using harsh inner communication.

We share some tricks how to change your bad thoughts into positive. We also remind you to not lose sight of the end goal in mind. Communicate to build a strong love bond and not break it. 

Don't let assumptions and societal pressure dictate how you feel about yourself.

Learn how to read your partners body language and facial expressions. This is where the signals of a mean inner communication first is seen.

Be kind to yourself!

S5E7 - Communication after a fight

What are the best ways to communicate after a fight? How soon can you start? Are apologies always needed?

We talk about the tools available and how successful couples repair fast and often even during the conflict 

How do you handle your feelings during and after a fight? Why do you react so much to some trivial matters? Can there be something else hiding behind your reaction?

Reminder:
You should always try to avoid the 4 Horsemen, also in your post fight talks and don't try to solve all the problems.

 

Link to more info about repairs after a fight.

Swedish repair PDF

S5E6 - Pleasant conversations

What is a pleasant conversation? How often do you have them? How often do you take the time to arrange them? Listen to us talk and reflect upon the importance of having pleasant conversations. 

We talk about why it is important to have a positive narrative in your life and show fondness and admiration for your partner. 

Communicating about good things can be very beneficial. If you find it hard there are many free tools to help you on your way. There are many card decks and apps with many topics to help you along.

Examples for you:
X-confessions App
Card decks
The Lovers App 

Go on, enjoy your pleasant conversations!

S5E5 - Speak of what you want

This may sound obvious but it isn't that simple. Knowing what you want and telling it to your partner can be very difficult.
How do you find out what you want if you are unsure?
How do you tell your partner something that you think might hurt them? 

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S5E4 - Otherness

One of the biggest challenges in a romantic relationship is that everyone is different. Thankfully! These differences are part of what makes you and your partner grow together.
But why can it be so hard?
Most relationships start with both partners trying to hide their otherness to try attract the other one. Slowly but surely the things that you have been hiding will be revealed.

S5E3 - Stress reducing conversations

What is a stress reducing conversation?
How is it done and what does it help us with?
The purpose of this process is to assist couples in the management of daily external stress, stress that comes from OUTSIDE the relationship, like job stress. If you can handle this together it may help reduce stress WITHIN the relationship too.

The motto, "Understanding First, then Advice", means that emotional connection should be honoured, before moving to problem-solving. Empathy with emotions and problem solving are like two pieces of
a jigsaw puzzle: they fit together, and each is invaluable.

 

Links to learn more about this tool; Stressreducing Conversations. 

And a Swedish PDF on the subject.

S5E2 - Intimate conversations

When it comes to having intimate conversations, there are three skills and one rule, according to the Gottmans. We reveal these and also talk about other ways and tools to communicate.
Non Violent communication being one of them.

If you like this season - please share it with your friends and inspire more couples to greater relationships. 

 

 

S5E1 - We have a problem with our communication

Welcome to our first season in English!

In an effort to help and inspire more people we have decided to add some seasons in English too.

This season is about communication. An area that seems to be at the root of most relationships problems, or the lack of it that is.

We also dig a bit deeper and notice that the words seem to be getting across fine many times but the recipient just does't like the message. So what is communication really about? Can we get better at it? Listen and find out what our thoughts are on the subject.

 

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S4E10 - Glöm inte underhållsplanen (för er relation)!

Välkommen till det sista avsnittet i säsongen om Det sunda relationshuset!

Det har blivit dags att prata om underhållsplanen, den som är viktig för att förebygga återfall eller dåliga vanor, så att huset hålls uppe och inte rasar ihop av minsta vindpust. 

Tillsammans med husets pelare (tillit och engagemang) kan samtliga våningsplan ge er en bild av era styrkor och svagheter. Och vi hoppas att ni får med er konkreta tips och förslag till er vardag. För er relation. 

I vår parcoaching erbjuder vi Gottmans digitala verktyg som tydligt visar just detta. Hur det står till i ert relationshus.
Vi tar tillsammans fram den unika underhållsplanen för er:
Hur kan våningarna hjälpa er att bli ett bättre team?
Vilka styrkor har ni? Vilka svagheter har ni? 
Välkommen att kontakta oss såklart!

 

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Tack från oss och säsong 4!!
Hunter & Therese 
The Lovers AB

 

S4E9 - Meningen med er relation

Det översta våningsplanet handlar om att skapa en delad mening. Ett delat syfte. Er relations syfte och mening som blir ett slags svar på varför du och ni båda är i just denna relation.

Vad skiljer en delad mening mot en livsdröm? Jo, livsdrömmen är praktisk! Den delade meningen finns i våra ritualer, i våra dagliga rutiner.  

När ni kommer till oss på parcoaching då undersöker vi hela ert relationshus. Hur kan våningarna hjälpa er att bli ett bättre team? Vilka styrkor har ni? Vilka svagheter har ni? Tillsammans skapar en en plan för just er, där ni är mitt i er relation.  Välkommen att kontakta oss såklart!

 

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